Saturday, February 28, 2009

Lets Take a Dip...

The other night we seized the opportunity to play a little. I have been toying with the notion of a little water torture and, as my little slave came to inform me her task was done, I grabbed her nipple and dragged her to the bedroom. Quickly stripped of all clothing and a modest breast harness tied on, I took her to the bathroom to enact my devious plan. I had her lie in the tub on her stomach and quickly bound her feet to the harness. I then pulled her hands to the small of her back and bound them also to the harness.

Helpless, just the way I like her, I thought with an evil grin. I then turned on the faucet. Slowly the water began to pool at the bottom of the tub, tenderly lapping against her thighs and breasts. Now, personally I was hoping for a little bit of, well, surprise with this, but there was very little chance of that with our bathroom set up. I guess that's the trade off between a sudden surprise and dreadful anticipation. Maybe one day when I have a huge dungeon set up all to my own... Yeah right;)

The water was slow but relentless in its ascent up her body, growing ever closer to her neck and then her chin.
I have to say she was doing an admirable job trying to bend herself in half backwards, keeping just out of reach of the rising water. I sat on the floor next to her running my hands across her straining back muscles and whispering gentle reminders of her inevitable watery fate. Of course, forcing her head under for several long moments at a time didn't hurt anything either.

Sadly, the water had just reached the base of her nose, and her eye brows kept jumping further and further up her forehead as if they could help hold her head above the surface, when we were interrupted. I had thought of just turning the faucet off and letting her steep a little, but our tub fun had unfortunately ended for the night. I opened the drain and left my soggy, panting slave to writhe in the draining tub. Poor slave;P.

Stay tuned for more watery fun, friends!

Haters, Chauvinists, and Feminists... Oh my!

There has been something that has been bothering me about the perceptions of some rather critical groups recently. People who are against BDSM, Chauvinists, and Feminists; many with very skewed notions feeding their self righteous views. However, it strikes me that most arguments seem to boil down to a disagreement over semantics, rather than a true disagreement over facts.

People who are against BDSM for instance usually site examples of a tendency toward abuse and weak personalities as the reason for a person exhibiting submissive mentalities. Yet I personally have seen some of the most self assure and down right stubborn people happily kneel down at the feet of their Dominant. It seems to me that the choice to serve, to be subjected to these torments is the key to consensual BDSM, not a lack of the ability to chose for one's self.

They have said that Sadists are mentally disturbed, even nihilistic; people who, for some reason or another, have lost the ability to experience emotional relationships in a normal way. Some have even accused us of being play ground bullies all grown up. Yet I have seen Masters show more love, devotion, dedication, and concern for their subs and slaves than most "normal" couples I've come across. It may be that by accepting the complete responsibility of a slave, holding the whole of their being in one's hand, provides for a more powerful connection than that of traditional relationships.

Chauvinists and Feminists amuse me. I one day expect to find a comic book chronicling the exploits of the epic conflicts between the arrogant Chauvinist Alliance and the frigid Feminist Consortium. "Watch as these two arch enemies lock proverbial horns in dead locked conflict while perpetually missing the point!"

Now, I'm a man that loves his porn! I love the sights, the sounds, the very idea of open sexual exchange. I liken it to a kid at the circus... or a kid online watching a virtual circus... Either way. One site I have enjoyed very much is a site called Pet Girls. The obvious and pleasant focus of this site being the petification of very sexy girls for our enjoyment. Enough said. However, the purveyor this site, a man called Benson as far as I can tell, takes it a step further. His site seems focused upon the idea that all women are big breasted "bimbos" and the petification aspect is just the logical and rational realization of their pet like status within modern society.

Okay so maybe that's over analyzing things just a little, but if you ever get the chance check out some of the things he says and the way he presents his media it is rather blatant in my mind. There are repeated themes within his videos where he mocks their personal dignity by making them bark, beg, catch treats in their mouth, he likens their pay to dog biscuits, so on and so forth. I must point out that this is not an attack on him or his views, however I think it would be fair to say that this is a rather chauvinistic attitude toward women.

Now I admit, I love to see a slave begging on her knees, I love to hear my slave bark and whine like a dog, I love to balance cookies on her nose as she rears up and pants. Who wouldn't? The difference is in where the degradation is coming from. I know, semantics right?

With D/s, M/s, and really most kinky couples this kind of play is more about showing how much humiliation, how much degradation the sub is willing to experience for the Dom. Its about the dynamic between the two or more partners, not at the expense of the individual, but for all involved. Extending that to say that because I have this hot, big breasted woman on her knees dripping long strings of saliva down upon my shoes as she pants for a treat, all women are exactly like this is, well... wrong. All you've really proven is that you are one lucky guy with one very desirable woman drooling on you.

Conversely, Feminists and their equally skewed views make me laugh. The point of feminism as a movement, from my recollection, was to give women the chance to get into the work force on an equal footing. Mission success, barring some on going wage disputes. For crying out loud we had our first female nominee for the Democratic Presidential hopeful, the first female to run as a Vice-President (given McCain's failing health, President), and the first female Secretary of State! Ever! These modern feminists however seem incensed at any woman who chooses not to leave the house in search of a career, also they lash out viciously at anything that even hints at a woman's role as being lesser than that to a man's. God forbid!

---Please allow me a moment to harp on those who fight for causes and please forgive me in advance for the abrasive and offensive things I will no doubt spout. The problem with people who fight for a given cause is that when they finally achieve their lofty goals, they can't quite seem to put down the flag. Its like the world's most addictive game of "King of the Hill". Who ever is on top at he moment is the enemy and if you reach the top, everyone below you is now the enemy. The issue with equality is that no one is looking for equality. In this country we have had many issues with equality in relation to race, gender, age, sexual preference, freakin' everything! A good quote to accompany this is from The Dark Knight: "You either die a hero or live long enough to see yourself become the villain."

Those noble people who have lead us to what they envisioned as their brighter future (I allude here to the late great Martin Luther King Jr. and also to President Abraham Lincoln) and were unable to see its dawn, leave their causes in the hands of those who rallied to their visions. These followers of a notion, these sheep, hold so tightly to their adopted views that they fail to notice their achievements. The struggle has taken the place of the hope born from their founder's ideals. These sheep fail to realize they achieved it nor allow themselves to enjoy their hard earned victory. All the while those around them use their efforts like a shield, hiding behind noble sentiments as they violate the very principles they cling to.---

Any way, I had occasion recently to read up on a feminist blogger who attacked one of my favorite BDSM porn companies, Kink.com. She ranted and raved about how horrible it was to depict the torture of women in such a light given the very real torture and torment that people are suffering from around the globe. Blah, blah, blah. This argument smacks of the same crap that people use to attack violence in the media.

It was the usual and really rather cliche standpoint that porn in general degrades women as a whole and further that the depiction of such tasteless violence and torture of women was a sickness. As if a willing porn star taking a dildo in the ass had anything to do with say some housewife in Texas or some women CEO in Washington! She states: "
If exploring your “dark side” entails wanking to women being tortured, it might be best to leave it unexplored. Or kill yourself." Lovely sentiment. It follows the same hard lined template as every orthodox religion, every stead fast watch dog group, every intractable moral argument. Do this or die! Do this or else! Do as I say! Wow, what a very Dominant position...

It is not for the sake of opinions that I rail against these notions, nor for the sake of any bruised feelings of mine from comments like that. (Let it be known that I personally find Kink.com to be the Cadillac of BDSM porn online.) No, it is simply that I hate seeing everyone being lumped into inappropriate categories to better fit some people's self proscribed notions. It is easy for someone who has never been ill to question the need for doctors, it is easy for someone without money to question the existence of banks, and it seems that it is truly easy for someone who has never felt the desire to be spanked or tied or fucked roughly to damn those who do as being sick.

(Amusingly, I recently read in an article [it was Maxim I think] that women these days are beginning to complain about how men are not being men in bed any more. It seems that women are tired of the sensitive, wimpy guy and want their men to exhibit the very forceful, grunting behavior that they have spent the last several decades bitching about, but only in bed where it suits them the most. Go figure!
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In conclusion, let people be who they are. A submissive woman is not proof that all women are submissive. A chauvinistic man is not proof that all men are chauvinists. A feminist who rails against people who enjoy things she doesn't abide may be, however, proof that most people's opinions are rarely enlightened.

Let those who are submissive be submissive, those who are dominant be dominant, and those who want nothing to do with it stay as fucking far away from me as possible!
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Thursday, February 26, 2009

Fortunate

Bouncing around the blogsphere lately, i've come to see that regardless of the difficulties that Master and i have faced in the last year ─ we're pretty fortunate.

Yes, i've had some issues settling in and allowing my role to be defined by the rules that Master and i have agreed to. Yes, i've had some health issues that have mucked up our interactions. Yes, Master has had His own frustrations regarding the way that things have been working.

But.

We've been together as a couple for 11 years, we're coming up on ten years as a D/s transitioned to M/s relationship, and this year will be our ninth year of marriage.

And i still see our commitment to each other growing stronger, and no matter how hard the redefinition of our roles and rules has been and might be, both of us need that M/s interaction, we both crave it, it's something essensial to our personal idenities. We aren't done growing, we aren't done changing, but we move and grow together to accept the changes we see in each other.

In all the reading i have done on the internet, of others personal BDSM relationships, i have seen several relationships fall apart because the growth of each individual isn't accepted, roles and rules are not redefined, and while they may still love each other, they cannot reconcile the growth with the style of relationship that they shared.

While i understand that not all relationships are salvageable, i am recognizing my own fortune, and expressing my own grattitude that Master and i are willing to work together, to grow together and build upon our dynamic and the rules we have created.

And no matter what else happens, i am grateful for what i share with Master.

Sunday, February 15, 2009

Q's answered by Masterofslavej


A long while back, we had asked for questions and comments to our blog. We know there are many curious people out there and we hope that at least some of them are curious about us. A nice man by the name of Florida Dom provided a whole heaping helping of Q for A. In true to life fashion,however, my time to answer these questions was gobbled up like dark meat on thanksgiving, or on a rap video. So, with my most humble apologies, here we go...


Q. Do you do tit bondage until they turn purple?


A. Oh yes. I absolutely love the look of a woman's breasts bound. I have on many occasions wound the rope so tightly around her breasts that they looked as if they were going to pop. Also that deep purple color they start to turn, luscious. On occasion, when I'm feeling particularly cruel, I'll bind her breasts tightly, put her on all fours for a fuck, then pull her arms behind her so she is forced to lay on them, grinding as she is fucked...

Q. Does she have any piercings? If not do you plan some?


A. Not as of yet. The idea of say nipple piercings is more of a punishment for her for something really naughty at this time. My slave has very aptly presented her case for not getting this done, citing that the potential for infection in such a sensitive area is too great. Plus, given her ample sized breasts, it would purportedly take up to six months for them to fully heal before we could do any breast play what so ever. This would be a great shame for both of us.

As for labia or facial piercings, I don't see the need nor desire for either of these. I have played with people who have labia piercings and I have found that they seem to get in the way more often then not, plus there is really nothing that can be done with labia piercings that can't be done with mean little plastic, toothed, clips. And facial piercings hold no interest for either of us personally.

The one piercing that I would really like to have done to her at this moment would be a belly button piercing. I have seen such beautiful designs and jewelry attachments for these...

Q. When you do bondage do you sometimes pull the rope tight in her pussy and is that a turn on for her?

A. In the past I have done quite a bit with rope harnesses, particularly with those that run up through the pussy lips, nipping and biting nicely. There have been times, when going out in public, that I have tied a pussy harness on her with the loose end sticking out of the back of her jeans, providing me with a lovely little handle with which to direct her around. This is a turn on for her, but one that she finds it hard to admit. Fortunately, her pussy rarely lies;)...

Q. How often do you make her pee in a cup?


A. At the moment, controlling her piss is more related to punishment. My hope is to make it a more permanent and regular part of her conditioning, however this is just not the right time. I do control when she may go by making her beg me for bathroom privileges, and have for almost the entire time I have owned her. There are many times when, especially if I am feeling particularly cruel or she has been bad, I'll allow her to piss but make her pee in the tub like a little dog. I'll even make her pant for me while she does...

Q. Do you ever pee on her in the tub or shower?

A. Yes, I do. Usually with little warning, I might add. There are some times when I'll come into the bathroom while she is in the shower and instead of using the toilet, I will piss all over her. Other times I'll be in the shower with her and have her squat down, as there is little room available for her to kneel, and cut loose all across her face and chest.

Q. Have you made her drink her pee yet instead of spitting it out?


A. I haven't yet, but it is coming... Just the other day, I had allowed her to use the restroom to pee, when I needed to piss as well. I entered into the bathroom to find that she had already finished and was washing her hands. I smiled and told her she was lucky the toilet was open, or I would have had to shoved my cock into her mouth and let loose. She just smiled...

Q. If her jaw is too small to make blow jobs comfortable, can't she turn you on just doing your tip?


A. Due to a very unfortunate period when my slave was closed for business for about two months, her oral skills have vastly improved. Not only has she developed a real appreciation for it, she has admitted to craving the feel of my throbbing cock in her mouth. Thanks to the benefits provided by cups of diced pineapples, she also enjoys having a mouthful of my cum. I am pleased to announce that she has successfully taken my cock all the way down her throat during a skull fucking session. The first that we have ever had.

Thus we look for the silver lining on every thunderous, fucked-up rain cloud that keeps my slave celibate...


Q. How often do you have scenes?


A. Honestly, as often as we can! Any more we just can't seem to find much time. For example, just today we were looking forward to an hour and a half of play time. However, what used to be half an hour of prep play and then an hour of fucking became a half hour of play period. We are both desperate for a full day or more of her subjugation, torture, and slavery...

Q. Does she have to shave her pussy?How often? Wax or razor?


A. My standing orders for my slave are that her cunt be shaved at all times. There are some times where I'll find she has gotten a little fuzzier than I prefer, and she is sent to the shower. We have not had her waxed yet, though the razor does provide for a day or so of little irritation bumps and some slight razor burn that can be fun in its own right when the time comes;)...

Q. Does she have to stay nude in the house sometimes?

A. I prefer for my slave to be naked at all times at home, wearing only a collar and perhaps some pumps. Infact, my ideal preference for any of my slaves is that they are collared at all times, naked at all times at home, and not allowed on any piece of furniture without express permission. It is such a joy to see a naked slave, collared, and kept on the floor. During colder seasons I'll allow her at least some clothing to keep her warm...

Q. Do you sometimes forbid her to wear a bra or panties in pubic?


A. In fact I had forbidden her to wear panties at the beginning of our relationship and as a result she now finds them uncomfortable. In a fun twist, I now force her to wear cutesy little panties or g-strings just for the humiliation factor on occasion...

Q. Do you make her wear revealing clothes in public?


A. Public play, given the small community we live in, has become something of a taboo for my slave. The very mention of it causes her to tense up and go quiet. How sad for me, however, it really does make for a great warning in public for misbehavior.

I chose the daily wardrobe for her as it is. As a slave, her body and her clothes belong to me and are mine to do with as I choose. Like a doll, I get to dress her up as I wish, which does often leave her walking about in sexy or somewhat revealing clothing. I do try to keep it a little toned down as to protect us from the community at large...

Q. Do you ever drip wax on her?


A.Wax play is not something that we do regularly given the mess. We also have not been able to find wax that will melt at a low enough temperature for her comfort. Now granted we have not tried wax play for quite a long time and her limits for so many things have increased over the years, so we'll definitely be trying this again...

Q. Do you ever put clamps on her nipples and/or pussy?


A.Yes, all the time. One of my favorite, yet sadly under used, activities is to handcuff her hands behind her, placing shackles on her ankles, placing clips like the kind one would use for potato chip bags upon her nipple and labia, and leading her around the house by a chain leash attached to her metal collar. It is so fun to watch her waddle, trying desperately to keep her thighs apart as to not twist those mean little clips. The chain of the shackles of course making that a most difficult proposition.

Most of our play includes some form of nipple clamps or clothes pins. I make regular use of her lovely, large breasts; binding, clamping, slapping, striking, ect. My slave has such lovely, sensitive nipples...

Q. Are people close by when you do kinky camping scenes?


A.We have not had a chance to do any kinky camping yet. It is something I am really looking forward to though. I have such wonderful and tormenting notions for my little pet when we do get to go. I think I'll bind her up and load her up, leading her like a pack mule to the camp sight on a leash to start. Things will get progressively entertaining from then on...

Q. Do you ever string her up by her arms until they become numb?

A. One thing that really irritates me about apartment living is that we don't have much capability for three dimensional bondage. I get to bind her to the bed, or tie her to a chair, but there is really nothing in our apartment that will allow me to bind her over head, especially if I want to hold her weight. We have done some bondage involving our bedroom or closet doors, but it always makes me feel so limited when considering the comparison of a nice exposed overhead beam. Sufficient to say, this is definitely in her future...

Q. Do you control when and what she can eat?


A. Yes, absolutely. I decide when and what she will have to eat and drink. I insist that she has access to water and milk whenever she needs it to maintain her health, however any food or other drinks are subject to approval by me first. When we are at a restaurant, I will decide what she will have and usually order for her...

Q. Do you have any taboos or hard limits?


A. I don't like to think of anything as a hard limit really. There is always room for improvement or advancement. I suppose there are some things that I will never go for. Things like: scat, children, snuff, things that are generally considered anathema to our community. Most everything else I could think of though might be fair game down the road...

Q. Are you planning on taking things to a new level each time she gets accustomed to one level.

A. Most definitely! I love to push my slave forward at all times and I hate to see stagnation or to loose ground. Ailments bug the hell out of me for that reason. For example, above I mentioned that her oral skills and her appreciation for such talents have vastly improved as of late, ironically as a result of an ailment. I intend to continue training her to further accept my cock in different ways and locals such as skull fucking, more blow jobs while bound, and eventually blow jobs in semi-public locations.

My style of domination, I suppose, is more instinctual than it is planned these days. Granted more out of necessity than any other cause. When I feel that I can successfully push her or challenge her in new and exciting or fear inducing ways, I do. When I feel it will be a struggle just to keep her at her current level, I push her to keep her there. I do on occasion have a chance to actually plan out some scenes based upon goal oriented training, but again this has been sadly scarce as of late...


Well, that covers most of that first set of questions. I am again sorry that it has taken me so long to post answers and I solemnly swear to keep up on my part of the blogging in the near future. Thank you all for being a part of this publicized exploration and please keep those questions and comments coming...


Masterofslavej

Thursday, February 12, 2009

Obey, Serve & Please

The last few days have been hectic, frazzling and frustrating. i haven't behaved as well as i should ─ repeatedly. Master has been excruciatingly patient as i quibble, argue and resist before coming to what i should have done the first time: obey.

Master has given me a very simple tenant to live by from the start of our journey into our Dominant/submissive merged to Master/slave relationship, and that is to obey, to serve and to please.

That boils down to even deeper simplicity: obey. If i obey, i am serving, and that is pleasing. i know this, i've lived with this simple, innocent "rule" for over eight years. i know it by heart, i understand its meaning and i see it work. i see the delight on His face when i obey without hesitation, i see Him pleased by my willingness to serve and obey. Yet, so often, when i allow myself to become worried by a situation, frazzled or stressed by the world around us, i fail to simply follow that simple, lovely rule.

i have failed to obey.

Master did not, of course, let me get away with the behavior for long. But what hurts, more than the punishment for the misbehavior, is knowing that i couldn't keep one simple word in the fore of my thoughts, that i couldn't follow the simplest part of belonging to my Master ─ i was not obedient. That excruciating patience He does not offer anyone else, merged with the expression of hurt and disappointment in me ─ it all hurts that much more as i am so dissapointed in myself for failing to mind that one word...

i want to do better. i know i can follow that simple, standing order. i can obey. i want to obey. And when i obey, i will serve Him and it will please Him. It is up to me to do better, to obey without question, without complaint. It is up to me to not let the stresses and frustrations of life keep me from trusting Master. And all of that is possible because it comes down to the definition of obey.

"To follow the commands or guidance of; to conform to or comply with; to behave obediently."

That is possible ─ even for me.